By: Kirsten Millar
Have you ever had one of those days when looking in the mirror is more like a nightmare than a daily activity? One of those days when picking out an outfit to wear is a painful venture into looking for the outfit that is the most flattering? This is typically known among some women as a “fat day,” a day where women discuss their weight and how it holds them back from accomplishing any task that normally isn’t even a problem.
Most people, not just women that I have known have some sort of body image issue when it comes to their weight. Flaws are introduced into the mix with failure, melancholy and disgust only perpetrates a negative cycle of self-loathing. To introduce a different factor into the combination of dealing with body image is the tendency to say something along the lines of, “I’m so stupid” or “Why can’t I be more like…” as a way to continue the cycle of picking apart not only the physical aspect but the emotional and intellectual aspects as well.
There are several approaches to coping with low self-esteem that stems from a “fat day” but the most important thing to take into consideration is the reason as to why you are having a “fat day.” Is it because something has gone wrong at work or school or a new found tension crept its way into a relationship? These variables are sometimes out of our control and the only way to resolve the issue is to think positively as often as you can.
To make this simpler here is a list of things that you can do to feel better whenever a “fat day” is looming off the horizon:
1. Have one nice thing to say about your body: It can be as simple as “I really like my eye colour” or “I have really elegant hands.” Just a comment that you can think about the next time you look in a mirror.
2. Compliment someone else: This particular one works quite often for me, I always take the time to see if someone has a really nice outfit or great hair. But don’t just take this advice as something that is entirely shallow, you can always compliment someone on a great presentation or how good he or she are at finding the best restaurant. Heed some warning as how you compliment someone based off how long you have known the person.
3. Do something nice for yourself/a friend/community: Spend some time doing something that you enjoy, reading a good book or finishing off some work that you need to catch up on. For friends, help them finish a task that they’ve been waiting to get done, go for a coffee or go do an activity that you both enjoy. For your community perhaps try to get involved through a school organization, donate some time to a shelter or raise funds to support a good cause.